Long Distance Relationship

“I fell in love with her when we were together, then fell deeper in love in the years we were apart.”

– Nicholas Sparks

“shehar dur ho, insaan dur ho par dil paas ho – long distance relationship.“

– Anil K. Arora

A long-distance relationship or long-distance romantic relationship is an intimate relationship between partners who are living at different places. You’re bound to go through a roller coaster of emotions, when in a long distance relationship. You’ll feel happy, sad, nervous, excited, and sometimes, you can’t even describe how you’re feeling. Your mind is your enemy that time.

Like every other relationship, LDR ka bhi honeymoon period hota hai. In which everything goes well in the beginning. Waking up to their messages, sleeping with their call, telling them your whole day, all day whatsapp, texting with them, dedication of special songs, understanding without clarification… everything is just perfect. Then we start getting used to being each other, you know this person is with me and it is right for me, bhale dur hai par paas hai... and then you remember your life priorities, and you have to manage both together. zindagi ki rassi pe chalna hai, dono ko balance karte karte.

and after this…

there is most unexpected thing in your life….Communication Gap….

Once this thing is in your life, you lost all your control in your relationship. Now the honemoon (lovy dovy) period is over. wo jo rassi me balance wala khel hai, usme immbalance shuru ho jata hai. Misunderstanding starts developing. Your partner needs your clarification for everything. Starts doubting on you. its the begining of blame game now. You want to prove yourself right and your partner wants to prove themself right.

A new phase of relationship starts. SILENCE. People who used to talk to each other for hours, do not talk for many days now. IGNORANCE………….
May be due to some kind of immaturity or ego problem both sides have same expectations.
why should I call him/her first?
I did nothing wrong, why should I bow my neck?
It was his/her fault he would call….
in that way silence continues…. but this silence is spiced up by social networks. You can see them online on facebook, whatsapp, instagram… This hurts you even more now. Why the hell he/she is not messaging me first? They are active on Instagram then why the hell, relationship is in a great pause… If you see them online on whatsapp chatting with other person but here is only slinece between us. You get angry…. The thing called emotional distance grows very well in life…

Now its time for the official fight. tumne mujhe text kyu nahi kia? kal raat kiske sath online the whatsapp pe 2:30 tak ? tumko mujhme interest hi nahi rha hai ab… According to me this fight is important to spice up the relationship.

At this point relationship can be saved or can be ended. Depends how you manage things further.

Foremost thing to save any LDR is communication gap mat aane do. Never let the silence come in your way of relationships. Basically this communication is acting as a thread to tie your relationship, If you will break this thread your relationship game will reach to zero.

To add spice to your relationship, start giving surprises to your partner. If its possible to meet your partner right now, just go for it. NO SECOND THOUGHT required. Send them chocolates, flowers in one or two weeks. Hand written letters can be sent to them, its a best thing you can do to make them feel special.

Never I repeat never allow any third person to come in between. Keep them free, Don’t suffocate your partner but putting unnecessary blame else they would find escape from this relationship. They will try to talk to someone else, because everyone loves their freedom.

Loyalty is Royalty… If you can’t be loyal to someone, you are not ready for this relationship. Instead of hurting someone better stay away from it. kyuki ek baar kisi ka layalty par se bharosa uth gya, the person will lose trust from LOVE, and if you did something you were not suppose to do, just confess it in from of your partner.
I believe that everyone has a priority, If they are in a relationship they will need the availability of their partner, either physical availability or may be mental (virtual) availability. If you are not getting this in your relationship, your mind will tell you, its only you who is in relationship. its only you who is giving full efforts only.